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You are Worthy of Loving yourself in 2020 (and beyond)

You’ve seen it everywhere: …”New Year, new YOU”.

I have to say I’m not buying that for myself, and I’m not buying that for you either. So many of you sit in my chair and say something along the lines of “fix everything” or “only surgery can fix this”. It sounds so extreme and harsh when you see it written out, but I think if you’re honest with yourself you’ve had thoughts like that- maybe even this morning as you were getting ready. I don’t believe that a New Year means we need to overhaul everything about ourselves to try to build the latest, newest “instagram version” of ourselves.

I reject that concept for me and I reject that concept for you.

What is it about a date on a calendar that makes us say: I need to “fix” myself?

Honestly- that noise, that inner mean girl, inner critic- that’s the biggest thing I want to resolve to work on this year. I want a community that feels safe and abounding in support without judgement.

I think in December that inner mean girl gets really loud- trying to convince us that what we did all year was not good enough. Don’t get me wrong, ditching old habits and focusing on self improvement is actually amazing- I’ve got a few books in mind that have helped me grow immensely this past year. The difference is- we need to be doing these things because we love and value ourselves, not because we are constantly deeming ourselves unworthy.

Time to get serious with the self-love.
What does that look like?

It might look a little similar to making a resolution.
The thing is- the good, healthy choices that make us feel our best are things that might need a little tweaking from our daily routines. I embrace the idea of continued self development as a no-limits act of love for myself.

No limits means: I love myself when I’m “doing good” and I love myself MORE when I notice myself not doing as well. When I say “no” to healthy things like nutritious foods, exercise, and sleep– and when I say “yes” to self-deprecating thoughts, a stress induced extra glass of wine, and other habits that I know don’t help me to feel my best.

I forgive myself and resolve, if you will, to do the the healthier things as an act of self love, rather than self-loathing. Adding in meditation, exercise, healthy eating – these are a few examples of things that will give you more peace.

The mind-shift is this: choose to do these things for yourself out of love. Don’t do them because you think you’re broken or not good enough. Aim for non-toxic thoughts, non-toxic habits, non-toxic patterns.

You are good enough, you are not broken.
Let this be a year of healing how you treat yourself. Forgiving and loving yourself and showing yourself compassion like you do to others. I hope this note is a reminder for you to be kind to yourself today.

You are so very worthy of that.

Happy New Year,
Rachel Postovoit
Greenhouse Beauty Founder 

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5 Things I wish I Knew About Skin Growing Up

 

So hindsight is 20/20, this much we know. But the sins I’ve committed as far as skin care, have been truly nightmarish type scenarios. And I know I’m not the only one. As a gal who cut her own bangs after drinking wine a few weeks ago, let’s stick to skin sins, hair sins would be a much longer post.

Growing up, I can’t even think of what it was my mom used to wash her skin and moisturize with- all I can remember as far as skin remedies in the home were: Eucerin, Noxzema, and Jergens, none of which I would recommend for someone who is trying to minimize chemicals in their routine, as well as have real results.

So here it is, 5 things I wish I could get in a Time Machine and tell to my younger self:

1.) More is not always better (or: bite the bullet and get the one thing that will serve you vs. 5 things you hate.)

I used to purchase every spot treatment under the roof of Walgreens/CVS/Target just to see what would truly work for me. I would buy this type of product most often because it’s what I really wanted to work for my skin- “Please God, just ONE acne-free month, okay!?”  I would, however also buy many eye creams, face creams, masks, toners, whatever- if it was new, and enticing- I wanted it. New brands, marketing and packaging would get me every time- and my discretionary senses or label-reading had not kicked in yet. I still walk down the aisles, just to see what’s out there, but the pull of their promises don’t get me anymore. I flip the box and read the label. I think back to all that I’ve thrown away, drawers of forgotten product that couldn’t deliver, and that is WAY more overwhelming than buying one pricier item that will work. 

Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.
– William A. Foster

2.) Oil is your friend (really.)

My Mom still tries to convince me that when I have a breakout it’s because of too much oil. Love ya Mom, but nothing’s that cut and dry.

Firstly: your skin produces oil, all on its’ own, as a means to care for the skin. If your skin is dry, it’s going to pump out some oils because your body can’t make water.

For perfectly hydrated skin, you ideally want a healthy balance of water + oil. What happens is, a dehydrated skin will produce more oil to try to get nourished, and then you have the (probably relatable) feeling of: “no matter what I do my skin is oily, I’ve even stopped using moisturizer on my T-zone.”

Well, friend: you’ve confused the heck out of your skin, and solved nothing. When you give your skin the oils that it needs, along with water (H20 internally, and moisturizer externally), your skin will breathe a sweet sigh of relief and the sebum (oil) production won’t be in a state of over-activity.

The key to getting this right, is to use the proper amount: 2-3 drops, on freshly washed skin, or you can use a spray toner to get the best benefits and have it sink in super quickly. What I’m talking about is your skin getting:
Q-U-E-N-C-H-E-D. For real. Like, really, really.

For straight forward hydration for all skin types Kahina Giving Argan Oil($15-$82):


For reduced dryness, increased radiance and bouncier skin: INtelligent Nutrients Renewing Oil Serum ($72):


For the ultimate anti-aging blend of Ayurvedic repairing and regenerative oils,

Dr. Alkaitis Organic Ageless Facial Elixir ($150):

3.) Picking your skin spreads.

So, my Dad used to tell me this. A lot. I didn’t fully grasp the concept though, because I thought it was something I could still manage. I would pick at my skin, and then take a toner with straight up witch hazel or un-cut Tea Tree Oil, and think I was fine. What I didn’t realize until I worked at a spa, was that the spreading wasn’t just on the skin- it was the pores next to the pore I was toying with that were likely to get inflamed, and contract whatever bacteria that ailed the first pore. Stopping picking.. is hard, and I can’t say I’m entirely successful yet. But the thing that has helped the most- is these acne stickers that suck out whatever is inside of a pimple that has a head (or maybe you did toy with it and it needs help healing..) Boost your skin confidence with these- they work.

 


4.) Don’t skimp on cleanser, makeup wipes are only 1/2 a wash!

I always hear people say that if you’re going to skimp or spend less on a portion of your skin care regimen, do it on the cleanser, because you wash it off. A proper cleanse, will set you up for success with the next steps in the regimen, so skimping is not going to work in your favor! Also, if that thought is real, we could skimp on shampoo, body wash, any thing that’s supposed to clean? I don’t think so!

A lot of us give our cleanser a big job: to take off makeup, AND remove dirt, bad oils, bacteria and whatever else we were exposed to in the day. This is just too much for a cheap cleanser to do!

If you want a multi-tasker: oil cleansers will remove all of your makeup and cleanse in one fell swoop. If you are a makeup wipe gal, invest in a makeup wipe with ingredients that serve, rather than strip the skin.

For the best results from your cleanser, wash for 30-60 seconds. Give the cleanser the time to really do whatever it’s designed to do. If you’re like me and you want to feel extra super-duper fresh, you can employe the “double cleanse” method, and cleanse with a makeup removing wash (such as an oil cleanser, or cream cleanser), and then wash a second time with a cleansing gel. Instead of doing a second cleanse, you can opt for a toner to make sure every bit of makeup is off your face so you can rest assured before you go in with your hydrators, that your skin is clean.

If you love a super thorough cleanse, this Fantastic Face Wash ($12-$28) is the stuff of dreams:


If balancing is more of your goal, Kahina Giving Beauty has you covered ($45):

If ultra hydration is more of what you’re aiming for, Nao Ayurveda  Ojas Cleanser will make you glow in just one use ($30):

5.) If you’re skipping SPF, you might as well throw all your expensive skin care products in to the bin.

I mean it. Get out the calculator and check how much all of your goodies are worth. They’re not cheap, and when you want a product that will work hard and give results? Well, you’re shelling out some hard earned dollars, with full confidence that it’s going to work. And? It will!

But when you roast, toast, shake n’ bake or whatever else in the sun without protection, the damage is going to outweigh the good.

Get on it, sister.

If you have a fear of sunscreen breaking you out, there’s options– options like Farizad’s Veil, that you can mix in with an oil of your choice ($34).


or this delightfully lightweight every day SPF 18 from Ursa Major VT ($54):

That is IT! Are there any things you wish you knew regarding skin when you were younger? Remember younger can mean yesterday, it’s okay to learn new things all the time!!!

Hope this struck a chord in you.

Be blessed!

Rachel